Reader and Perfect Strangers fan Sharon wrote to me and made an offer I couldn’t refuse: not having to watch this show this week. Sharon has been watching Perfect Strangers with her daughter, Piper, and I’m proud to present their thoughts on the journey here. See you at the end!
(I’m keeping their last name private lest you call child protective services.)
I stumbled upon Casey’s blog while looking for more information about Perfect Strangers, a show which I have been watching with my 10 year old daughter Piper. It took me a little bit of time to figure out the rhythm of his blog posts. Sarcasm, got it. Repeated catchphrases, of course. Homosexual references—okay, Casey, whatever. Sometimes two men living together is just two men living together. Even if they did make that cringe-worthy “Mama told me never to do the Dance of Joy alone or I’ll go blind” joke in “This Old House.” And now that he points out all these moments, I can’t un-see it. Thanks a lot, Casey.
I was such a fan of the show when I was a kid that I had a Bronson Pinchot poster back in the 1980s. He’s wearing a vest. He’s holding a white dove. (I imagine Casey will make some sort of metaphor or psychoanalysis about this.)
Teenage me had a thing for Bronson Pinchot, is what I’m saying. Other favorite TV shows of my youth include The Monkees, and Friday the 13th: The Series. Make of that what you will.
Anyhoo, I thought I could offer a perspective on the show from the point of view of someone who is female, an original fan of the show, and watching it with a 10 year old. My daughter Piper watches a lot of TV. Probably too much TV, but it’s hard for me to put my foot down when I know damn well I spent my youth doing algebra homework while watching Ducktales. Some of her favorite shows are the Disney Channel and Nickelodeon live action shows, like Bizaardvark (about two girls who create funny web videos), The Thundermans (a family who are secretly superheroes), and Henry Danger (also about a guy who is secretly a superhero, and his sidekick.)
I started watching Perfect Strangers from the very beginning. I remember watching a preview of the show on an entertainment program, and they showed the clip of Balki in his Spider-Man pajamas, with Cousin Larry asking, “What are those?” and Balki answering “These my Spider-man Pajamas,” and I thought, “THIS is a show for me!”
I received the DVD of the first two seasons of Perfect Strangers as a Christmas present from my husband, who knows me well. At the time the first two seasons were all that was available. I watched, I was transported to a simpler time, when sitcoms had a heart and schmaltz was OK and we were in the pre-Seinfeld “No Hugging, No Learning” ethos of the cynical 1990s. The good old days. I really appreciated how, in the beginning, it wasn’t always that Larry was right, and Balki was wrong, or vice versa—the two of them seemed to balance each other out and learn lessons from one another. Neat. And because I like sharing the things that I love with my children, and because I figured this one would be appropriate to share with a 10 year old (unlike Friday the 13th: The Series, which she actually already watched when I was home on maternity leave with her), I started watching Perfect Strangers with Piper.
I thought the physical comedy in “Hunks Like Us” was fantastic. In my youth I liked Balki, because kids are supposed to like Balki. Now that I’m an adult I really appreciate Mark Linn-Baker. It’s hard to be the second banana. Of course a second banana’s career also lasts a lot longer.
I was bummed that for a long time we only had access to the first two seasons. In my memory, season 3’s “Pipe Dreams” was one of the funniest things I’ve ever seen. (Tangent: Friday the 13th: The Series also has an episode entitled “Pipe Dreams.” It’s, well, decidedly different.) I liked how as the show progressed, it seemed to get more self-aware. “I have—” “Oh God” “a plan.” and “Is this the part where you talk down to me?”
And then I found out that Hulu was acquiring TGIF shows, including my beloved Perfect Strangers! Now, we are so happy, we do the dance of joy! Di di di didi di did di….
So, we settled in to watch the remaining seasons. Right now we’re done with season 5, and my daughter and I have—some thoughts.
For one thing, how did Balki learn to speak English? Mypos obviously has its own language, but Balki came to America with a pretty good grasp of the English language. Is English a subject in Myposian schools? Correspondence course? Itinerant ESL instructor? Well-meaning college students on voluntourism trips?
In about season 3, the plots got fairly weak. “You know this is going to get worse,” I told my kid. In the middle of “Dog Day Mid-Afternoon,” I asked, did Balki get dumber?
I started to realize that somewhere along the way, in my own youth, I gave up on Perfect Strangers. The last episode I remember watching is the one where Larry proposes, and I had genuine feels for Larry at the time. I wanted him to win, and get the girl, even though Jennifer is so clearly out of his league. Larry’s happy, show ends. Right?
Wait, there’s two more seasons after that?
I had to Wikipedia to see how the whole thing ended up, and boy, am I not sure how my kid is going to like the idea of Jennifer giving birth in a hot air balloon. (Spoiler alert.)
Perfect Strangers is a good primer in sitcom tropes for a kid. Curmudgeonly bosses, like Twinkacetti and Gorpley? Check. An episode with gambling? Check. Episodes with identical cousins? Check. The Rashomon trope? Oh hells yeah.
Sometimes I’ll observe something like, how come the women never get any more of a plot? And she’ll say, because it’s not about them. If there were a sitcom about us, she asks, would it have subplots of the neighbor kid?
Or, I’ll say, why doesn’t Balki see through Larry’s latest ruse to get him to do something he doesn’t want to do? “Because then there wouldn’t be a show, Mom.”
So here we are, Piper and I, at the end of season five. And because kids are supposed to practice predicting or whatever, instead of just enjoying the story they’re reading or show they’re watching, I asked her some questions. “What do you think will happen on Perfect Strangers?”
“They’ll go on more vacations.” (She likes the vacation episodes. She thinks they’re funny. I guess she likes it when things go to babasticky.)
And because I know about dramatic irony, or the viewer knowing something that the characters do not, and my 5th grader is learning that stuff too, I know that they at least rise somewhat in the echelons of the Chronicle, with Larry doing more reporting and Balki starting “Dmitri’s World.” (Spoiler alert.)
“Do you think they’ll ever get new jobs?”
“Do you think they’ll ever move?”
“No, because Jennifer and Mary Anne*** would have to move, too.” Astute observation from a 5th grader. Obviously the only thing tethering those two to Larry and Balki is geographic proximity.
“So, nothing is ever going to change for them?” I asked her.
“I think it’s going to get more ridiculous.”
Just wait until she sees what happens in Season 8!
As a matter of full disclosure I think that you, the kind of person who is reading this, should know that I own a stuffed sheep. But I did not name him Dmitri, because I thought that would have been too derivative. His name is Pierre.
Perfect Strangers Wrap-Up
We’re done. Almost 150 episodes watched. It’s a little sad. One of my favorite things as a parent is sharing stories with my kids; good triumphing over evil, the power of friendship, the laugh from a good character. I’ve read them Harry Potter’s and Ramona Quimby’s stories. I have watched the unfolding story of wayward teenagers in Point Place, Wisconsin, in the 1970s with my oldest daughter; and I have watched the story of a singing knight who is trying to win back his lady love and get a princess back her kingdom with my middle daughter. Piper, my youngest, and I got to share the story of a naïve Mypiot and his allegedly street-wise cousin.
The conclusion I’ve come to, while re-watching these shows, is that Larry and Balki are kind of like your old college/high school friends who were just a couple of great guys, and you haven’t seen them in a while, and you’d like to introduce them to your kids to show you what their mom was like Back In The Day. And then you see them again, and you realize–maybe they weren’t quite as funny as you remember. And also maybe they’re sometimes kinda dumb, and occasionally unnecessarily violent. (What was it with those years? Why is Homer strangling Bart supposed to be funny?) But still, you have residual good feelings, and you want to see how this plays out, so you keep watching. My kids have already seen all the episodes of Full House, which I never liked as much as I liked Perfect Strangers. It was time to get them some more T.G.I.F. knowledge. [Teaching Girls is Fundamental – Casey]
Something I’ve come to observe over the 100+ episodes I’ve watched is the complete lack of B plots. Were they not invented in the 1980s? Did they think we couldn’t keep track of more than one storyline? Piper once commented that it would be nice to see an episode about the women (notice that her Generation Z self knows not to call them “girls”), but then it would be a bottle episode, and then I wondered where she learned the term “bottle episode.”
So far, we’ve skipped three episodes–“Sexual Harassment in Chicago” because the kid is 10 and although I’m all about teaching consent, I don’t think the 1980s sitcom format is the way to introduce the subject, although I’ll call it out when I see it on “iCarly.” We also skipped most of “Door to Door” because it just embarrassed me too much FOR our intrepid cousins, and also because maybe I sold CutCo knives for a week once and it brought up too many memories. And “The Gazebo” we fast forwarded because it was boooooring.
We’re watching on Hulu, which allows you to see exactly how long each episode is. I usually skip the theme song, which is about 1:30, an excruciatingly long time for a show that only ever has a maximum of six actors listed. And it is Piper, who is 10 and in 5th grade, who observed that it’s about at 4:00 left in the episode when the cousins “learn their valuable lesson.”
Piper would like to relay that she is happy that her favorite character, D(i)mitri, got nearly two whole episodes dedicated to him in Season 7. Piper is also most likely to be the only 10 year old in America who, when asked to name a Hollywood star, comes up with Mark Linn-Baker.
Piper wants to re-watch some of the vacation episodes; those are her favorites. Current Nickelodeon programming has taught her that catastrophe is humor. So I guess I’ll be re-watching syndication favorite “Snow Way to Treat a Lady.”
The one thing the show had then, which I think is lacking now, is heart. I’m not even convinced that The Big Bang Theory’s characters like each other, much less love each other. You can tell that Larry and Balki—and Mark and Bronson—had genuine affection for one another.
Or, as YouTube guy Steve Shives so eloquently put it: “But I loved it anyway….I prefer clumsily executed heart to skillfully executed cynicsm. I would much rather have a show that tries to speak to the goodness of people. That tries to leave the audience with something positive, however awkward and artless the attempt, than have a show where the message is: ‘everything sucks and only fools care.’”
Is the character of Balki a stereotype? Is Larry more uptight than necessary? Of course. Are they fun to watch?
Of course they are. Don’t be ridiculous.
Thanks, Sharon! I don’t know why the guest writers keep saying “don’t be ridiculous”. Is that from something?
The dove, of course, represents the person looking at the poster, and the image is a promise that Bronson’s hands will gently hold you, and not throw you around like the dead birds seen on Perfect Strangers.
And speaking of–join me next week for “Duck Soup”!
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Sharon would like to note that, thanks to the magic of Hulu. it looks like we may start watching “WKRP in Cincinnati” next.
I absolutely adore WKRP. Cast is stellar, I’m still in love with Bailey, and Dr Johnny Fever is one of several reasons why Head of The Class is one of my fav 80’s shows of all time. Realtalk, I would recommend the series “The Facts of Life” if you’d like something lesson-y for 10-year-olds to grow up with. 🙂 They tackle a lot of surprisingly deep issues on there.
The Facts of Life was my introduction to “The Sitcom Past is a Different Planet”. I remembered it as a fairly progressive, fairly enjoyable show from my youth. And then I watched the first episode. Do you know what the plot of the first episode is?
Blair starts a rumor that one of the other girls (no, not Jo; she’s not in the first season) is gay. So Mrs. Garret threatens to start spreading it around that Blair is easy. Then Mrs. Garret reassures the other girl that she’s a good person and therefore probably not gay.
So many of the sitcoms that were hailed in their time for being progressive turn out to be based around the central joke “Isn’t it adorable; those women think they’re people!”
Anyway, if someone’s looking for a sitcom to take up, the one I’d recommend is Benson, which has actually aged really well, despite its central joke pretty much being “The black guy is more competent than the white people! That’s not how white american audiences expect the world to work!”
Also, Robert Guilllame is a goddamned national treasure, may he rest in peace.
I’m going to spend the rest of the day upset that SOAP never got its final season. Very few shows were more perfect.
I know, right? I was talking about this on another site the other day, and, for instance, Jodie is probably the best gay character in tv until the late 90s.
Season 1 of Facts of Life is quite all over the place. The show didn’t really find its feet until S2. A lot of B-characters disappear, more focus on the Fab 4 and Mrs G, better structure,
I for one sincerely look forward to Piper’s eventual angry sitcom blog.
Quoting Balki (from 4×06 Up a Lazy River Part 1 @4:22);
Well, this is fun!
Thanks Sharon for your story!
If Casey wants to drag out watching another episode for as long as possible, it would be great if some other fans (not me) wrote up some more Perfect Strangers confessions!
Nothing really holds up in retrospect, but looking back at PS has still be loads of fun for me. I never cared about the plots or the physical comedy. It was the ridiculous malaphors and other low brow wordplay or other banter, which only worked because of the chemistry of the the two main actors. Casey hates the misunderstandings, so reading the reviews here is like reading about some other show that I have never seen before. They are, of course, still fun to read.
What was it with pictures of men cuddling doves in the ’80s? I’ve seen a picture of the same vintage of Donald Trump doing that exact same pose with a dove in his hands. Well, I mean, it looked like a dove. Proportionally to his hands, it was more like he was holding a chicken. But still.
I think the lack of B-plots in Perfect Strangers is down to their obsession with never ever letting anything be about anyone other than the cousins, and never ever letting the cousins be separated from each other; there’s just no one left for the B-plot to happen to. Most ’80s sitcoms were family sitcoms, where you’d have an A-plot with the parents and a B-plot with the kids, or else A and B plots with the older and younger kids.
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I was a big fan of Perfect Strangers when it originally aired from 3/86-8/93. In fact, I still have every one of the 100+ episodes I recorded from it’s original run on ABC. I was 14 years old when this show aired it’s series finale on 8/6/93. Even back then, this was a different kind of show that was unlike most other sitcoms produced during that era. It used a formula and style that was different from other shows at that time. Modeled after I Love Lucy and The Honeymooner’s, television comedies of the 1950’s. Most if not all of the comments on here, including reviews by Casey, portray the content as if it is a representation of society during the period in which it was produced. That is not correct. This show was nothing like most other comedies of that era, it was meant to be corny and kitschy or whatever label it may be given. Times have changed, TV viewership has been segmented from a few choices to god knows how many. Cable TV, households with multiple TV’s and the availability of multiple devices have changed the way people watch TV. This was a show written for the entire family. Adults, kids, grandparents could watch it and get something out of it. Now the kids shows are so silly only kids want to view them. Adults prefer adult-themed comedies and dramas. What was special about this show was that the entire family could watch it together. I remember this show being on and my grandfather was sitting in the room with the volume down because we had company and we were laughing at the physical comedy of the two very talented lead actors. That was the dynamic of the show. Bronson Pinchot and Mark Linn-Baker and the chemistry they shared. I remember thinking it was a corny show compared to the other sitcoms back then but loving it none-the-less. It was an escape from reality and frankly we could use more of that at the current time.
One more thing, ABC put more pressure on the show to become more kid-friendly after it moved the show to Friday nights in March 1988. From that point on the show had a marked change in plotting and it became much more sillier. This was done on purpose to keep the show on which worked well.
I’m just here to thank you for posting the poster – I had the exact same one and it was ginormous! I’ve linked back to your post so that others may delight in the vest/dove weirdness. Thank you!!